Pastor...the mark of a mature leader is to admit "my fault." Be weary of people who never think it is their fault as to why things did not get done. Be weary of those that make it your fault as to why things don't get done. By all means help and if you volunteer to do something....follow through with it. But, never beat yourself up over someone that blames you for their shortcomings. Alright...that's my bagel bite for the hour lol.